Here’s a checklist to see if you might be doing things that are chronically annoying those around you:
- Are you chronically late for work, meetings or events?
- Are you doing your best every day, or just enough to keep from being fired?
- Do you bathe and wear clean clothes every day? (You might have body odor and not realize it!)
- Do you habitually correct the people around you?
- Are you frequently pointing out problems?
- Do you frequently complain about your boss?
- Are you totally absorbed in your work, and generally unaware of what the people around you are doing?
- Are you loud?
- Do you gossip about your coworkers?
- Do you have a mess that extends beyond your office or personal space?
- Do you wear perfume or cologne?
- Do you frequently get in bad moods, and don’t try to hide it?
- Do you regularly do or say things that might be considered “politically incorrect?”
This isn’t an exhaustive list, of course, but if you have answered yes to more than one of these things, it might explain why people seem to be avoiding you.
Each of us plays a role in how enjoyable our workplace is, and it can often just take one person to create an uncomfortable or unpleasant work environment. Being good at what you do is only part of the equation. The other part is how well as you play with others. You may think of yourself as just a small cog in a big wheel, but you’d be surprised at how much of a difference you make to those around you.